Can I stay with an alcoholic?

As you may know, only he can change himself he has to want to. He needs to first realize that he has a problem, only then can he seek help. He neds to find out why he needs to "self medicate", what is really bugging him. One way or another he will stop be it a dui , jail, or his health. He does want to change and sounds like he does love you. The trouble is he is addicted to alcohol and it is not that easy to just stop when that is what you have been doing for years. it is up to you to support him stand by him better or worse....or.......tell him if he doesn't stop or you and the kid have to leave. btw when she told be that i got so pissed and said eff it leave then. im glad she didn't good luck to you many wives go to alanon codependents of alcoholics. pray on it too.