Mom is acting Jealous and angry/anxious because im growing up?

she is blaming my boyfriend. Counsellor told me to not react with ainxiety and my mom will chill out but i sense my mom is acting strange the less i care, she acts like im cheating on hr saying like "oh you never replied to me txt" or she gives me the silent trreatment its playing games. When will she just let me grow up and let me goo??